tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post2548249161784747331..comments2023-12-16T08:34:19.484+00:00Comments on Kiru Taye Writes: Earn my submission or bite me! #erotica vs #romance Kiru Tayehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03285263322486836620noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-44191297259641148802013-04-05T23:17:15.774+01:002013-04-05T23:17:15.774+01:00GRRRRRR! I am frothing at the mouth. I hate books ...GRRRRRR! I am frothing at the mouth. I hate books that cheat me. I HATE COERCION in sex. I would have flung my eReader across the room too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-28234393741422306522013-04-05T03:06:48.127+01:002013-04-05T03:06:48.127+01:00Sounds like they ran out of ideas and needed to fi...Sounds like they ran out of ideas and needed to fill up space. Either that or they wanted to add that but could not go through the trouble of rewriting the story so that it would make sense for the reader. <br /><br />I agree with you there is a difference between erotica, erotic romance and romance. If done correctly they can all be magical. The problem is authors forget that erotica stories are still stories. They are so busy getting to the "blow by blow action", they lose sight of not only their characters but also their readers. I stopped reading erotica because I was left feeling "disappointed and unsatisfied",especially when there is a nonexistent plot (which unfortunately is usually the case}. I always ended up with more questions than answers, whether I finished the story or not.<br /><br />I think people forget that the brain is the most sexual organ we have, and once you stimulate that you can get pretty hot and dirty all by yourself. As a reader I am investing myself, so yeah I get pretty upset when I don't get what is advertised. Many a book and e-readers have suffered at my hands. I am only allowed to use the apps now and my hubby has wisely put them on things that he knows, I will regret losing, such as my laptop.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06626149705173279520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-20363667253967275572013-04-05T02:45:12.770+01:002013-04-05T02:45:12.770+01:00Hadn't thought about sex scenes as part of cha...Hadn't thought about sex scenes as part of character development, but that's food for thought. J.L. Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05666634455836834179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-80792447737924463942013-04-04T11:37:35.265+01:002013-04-04T11:37:35.265+01:00I know the freedom of speech thing, but in my opin...I know the freedom of speech thing, but in my opinion that book shouldn't even have been written. It just encourages abuse. Thanks for an interesting post. I didn't know what erotica was. Being a romance junky, that probably won't feature in my reading list.Kathy Bosmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13754760081165382252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-67982438153184066382013-04-03T21:32:29.163+01:002013-04-03T21:32:29.163+01:00I wouldn't like that either. If it's eroti...I wouldn't like that either. If it's erotic romance, then I expect the heroine to be respected and cherished, and not treated like his own personal property to use and abuse as he sees fit. <br /><br />A no is a no even in fiction.<br /><br />You're right. That book should have been labeled erotic only with a warning about bondage.Janice Seagraveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576031935823587485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-32341269302108651082013-04-03T21:26:09.135+01:002013-04-03T21:26:09.135+01:00I agree. Which is why I put down my phone as soon ...I agree. Which is why I put down my phone as soon as I read that scene and will not go back to that book. At least not yet.Kiru Tayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285263322486836620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-71413638198440914742013-04-03T21:24:45.558+01:002013-04-03T21:24:45.558+01:00You're welcome. Thanks for stopping by.You're welcome. Thanks for stopping by.Kiru Tayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285263322486836620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-42664729353813465762013-04-03T21:24:19.948+01:002013-04-03T21:24:19.948+01:00You certainly have. Thank you. :)You certainly have. Thank you. :)Kiru Tayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285263322486836620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-60804613383514871042013-04-03T21:23:24.986+01:002013-04-03T21:23:24.986+01:00My sentiments exactly.My sentiments exactly.Kiru Tayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285263322486836620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-77273017370529459452013-04-03T21:22:16.881+01:002013-04-03T21:22:16.881+01:00As it happens there are lot of 'dubious consen...As it happens there are lot of 'dubious consent' scenarios in Erotica stories. When it is marked as such, I have no problem with it, as I know what to expect. I can choose to read it or walk away.Kiru Tayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285263322486836620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-13249215176163003752013-04-03T21:19:17.415+01:002013-04-03T21:19:17.415+01:00Absolutely! It was marked as contemporary romance ...Absolutely! It was marked as contemporary romance and I expected it to deal with contemporary issues. Treating 'his woman' the way the hero did is just not acceptable to me in that genre. <br /><br />But if it was marked as erotica, I would've happily suspended disbelief to carry on reading it.Kiru Tayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285263322486836620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-5723260342803436992013-04-03T21:16:20.021+01:002013-04-03T21:16:20.021+01:00Considering I'd lost the use of 2 eReaders rec...Considering I'd lost the use of 2 eReaders recently, I tried to contain my anger and simply switched off and went to sleep when I read that scene. I couldn't bring myself to continue reading. I felt so cheated. :(Kiru Tayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285263322486836620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-12452898135445023892013-04-03T21:13:52.686+01:002013-04-03T21:13:52.686+01:00You said it, Nana! :)You said it, Nana! :)Kiru Tayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03285263322486836620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-87443826466532834762013-04-03T20:12:54.058+01:002013-04-03T20:12:54.058+01:00No, there is nothing worse than expecting one thin...No, there is nothing worse than expecting one thing from reading the cover or part of the book then it flip and your in a different book. I like to pick when I read certain content and not have it thrust upon me. Ms Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10486766019218728473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-80989721364838966162013-04-03T18:13:21.456+01:002013-04-03T18:13:21.456+01:00Great post and thanks for clearing up the differen...Great post and thanks for clearing up the difference between Erotic and Erotica! Very helpful!Sharon Cunningham Cooperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18395646970827108265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-50019335076084190152013-04-03T17:58:06.104+01:002013-04-03T17:58:06.104+01:00A very interesting post, Kiru. I love sweet romanc...A very interesting post, Kiru. I love sweet romance too much, but I have enjoyed some erotic romance. I agree with you on the issue of forced submission and a 'no' being ignored. Even if I put on my 'I am going to be objective and open-minded' cap, I will not enjoy such a story. My main reason for not reading the more erotic novels are that it seems as if writers think you have to use 'raw' words in order for it to be hot. I'm sorry, I don't think of vagina's as p*$$y and I don't think swearing for its own sake it cool, so it limits how much I can enjoy a story when it is littered with words that I don't usually use. I would love to read a seriously flaming hot novel with my kind of language. Is that too much to ask?<br />Okay, I think I have digressed, but I hope I answered your question adequately :-)Empihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01894671064010437610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-58182683900887927352013-04-03T17:04:48.367+01:002013-04-03T17:04:48.367+01:00The definitions work for me. If you're going t...The definitions work for me. If you're going to use the moniker of 'romance' to promote your book, it better have that element in there. Pure erotica is about sex for me. That doesn't mean the woman (or man) is humilated and asked to do things they're not comfortable with...that's borderline rape for me. To set someone up for a nice steamy romance and then throw in "Hey honey, How about I tie you up and my friends have a go?" ..."No." ... "Then it's a yes?" ... "No." ... "I'll call them straight away!" Just...no. :|Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-61067947127910758642013-04-03T17:02:18.341+01:002013-04-03T17:02:18.341+01:00No safeword? No consent? Erotica? NOT. Porn? ...No safeword? No consent? Erotica? NOT. Porn? Yes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12793919404834341877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-42333075512487437272013-04-03T16:56:00.947+01:002013-04-03T16:56:00.947+01:00I like your definitions too. I like reading all ty...I like your definitions too. I like reading all types of books and like Doris I don't mind erotica if I know that's what I know I am reading. So in the book you comment on, it would annoy me if it was advertised as one thing and ending up being something else. Women are not objects! A lack of basic respect would annoy the heck out of me! grrrrrr...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16447034496838544889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-66111095669646459722013-04-03T16:44:08.678+01:002013-04-03T16:44:08.678+01:00Agh, no safe word? Ignored her no? Is your kindle ...Agh, no safe word? Ignored her no? Is your kindle still alive or have you broken it by throwing it across the room? <br />Mine wouldn't be had I read that. I have no problems with reading dubious consent etc if it's labelled as such. I will even read wham bang, thank you ma'am stories - sometimes that is just what you need ;-)<br /><br />But, as a reader you need to know what you're buying, so you know what to expect and I fully agree with your definitions, Kiru.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-504800520107358646.post-9616664937996388732013-04-03T16:41:20.184+01:002013-04-03T16:41:20.184+01:00I really enjoyed this post. I normally don't r...I really enjoyed this post. I normally don't read erotic romance and never erotica (I like romance too much). You were pretty clear about the difference between the two in your post. You are absolutely correct about respect and consent being important no matter what genre it is.Nana Prahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12854685637338591856noreply@blogger.com